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I'm learning to play hockey. Physically learning to stand up for myself and set boundaries. Very good! Hockey sounds like a great way to gain greater dimensions of self protection.
Go for it!!! Thank you for commenting. This article was a slap in the face, what are you doing girl kind of thing! But how do you go about setting boundaries? Protecting yourself, guess I'm naive and too kind hearted.. This article is so me and what I'm in right now I thought maybe you were my long lost sister or something cause that sounds exactly like me. Oh my goodness, it is so on target with every point. Thanks for the words to what I have been feeling about myself.
I didn't know how to describe it. But this was perfect. Boy do I have a lot of Honest soup to be having!!! All I can say is wow Thank you so ice for this knowledge!
I so value this site. After about 22 years of what has been described from others very well. I lost my ability to speak and developed a stammer, could not work even voluntary work. I have sudden flashes of anger when I thought i was the understanding one, then feel guilt. Not used to anger.
Dear Jenna, I don't even know where to begin in relating to you my truly heartfelt gratitude for this article you have written. I am 54 years old and the pain from failed marriages and failed relationships with family and friends has become so crushing that tonight I was going to end my life. I simply could not understand what was wrong with me and why my life was one big failure after another. Even my very own children, whom I feel I have done the very best I could and every decision I've made for the past 33 years was made for their benefit, walk all over me, speak to me disrespectfully, and show very little appreciation.
This crushing pain became unbearable. As I read your article, tears flowed from my eyes like a dam that had just been opened. I was reading an exact description of myself so precisely it was as if it was written by someone who had known me my whole life. For the first time in my life it was as if someone finally understood me and was able to put all that I was feeling not only into words, but explain why I was feeling this way.
I didn't even know about Codependency. But reading this article has given me new hope and made me realize I'm not a bad person without any worth, I just allow bad people to take advantage of me and take my feeling of worthiness away. How do you thank someone for saving your life I don't know of any words that can fully convey or express my gratitude for the hope and inspiration to pursue more about dealing with Codependency, but THANK YOU with all my heart and soul for this new found hope!!!
But before I met him I worked a lot on mine. I am disabled and he was making life easier for me. This went on for years but I noticed I wasn't treating him very well.
I realized this was because deep inside I really wanted to do these things for myself, and that his encouraging dependency in me was his own issue and actually a manipulation on his part. But I didn't refuse the help. But it came a point where I stopped letting him do things for me and actually started trying to pay him back by doing things for him and helping him out.
This is partly because I realized the sickness of the relationship and partly because i was now in a better position. BUT what ended up happening his in reaction to my being less of a burden and more of an asset.. My knee jerk reaction was to think I deserved it because I treated him like shit all those years.
BUT I have been though too much therapy and realized I simply can't fall into a pattern of accepting abuse again. If you have a deep-rooted belief that you're a loser or that you're unworthy, you'll surround yourself with people who confirm your conclusions. It's a vicious cycle that's hard to break.
When you're treated poorly, you'll feel worse about yourself. And the worse you feel, the less likely you are to believe you deserve to be treated better. Whether you are afraid of being lonely, or you think you won't ever find another boss who pays you so much, fear keeps you stuck. You might focus on how bad things might be if you cut someone out of your life. Over time, you might grow desensitized to the mistreatment you experience. It often evolves slowly and gets worse gradually--so you might underestimate the toll someone is taking on your life.
The first step in creating change is to recognize that you deserve to be treated with respect--and to discover why you've allowed someone to mistreat you. Then, you can begin to set healthy boundaries and limit the toll they take on your life.
That may mean saying no when certain things are requested of you like refusing to loan someone money who never pays you back. Or, it may mean ending a conversation every time the other individual becomes disrespectful like hanging up the phone every time your business partner begins yelling at you.
There's a good chance the other person won't respond well to your boundaries at first. But if they don't respect your wishes you may need to take more drastic steps--like cut the person out of your life.
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